What to do About Those Living With Us, but in a Parallel Universe?

The universe of Trump supporters, and us.

After yesterday’s intrusion on the US capitol, I scrolled through various social media feeds and saw numerous reactions similar in nature to those of the past years… except much more amplified. I once saw a survey that suggested 80% of Trump supporters and Biden supporters claimed they lack meaningful contact with anyone from the other side. I’m borderline in this 80%, but I try my very best to maintain some level of connection.

Amplified reactions. On one side: “deplorables, nazis, terrorists”. On the other: “socialists, marxists, satanists”. I saw posts asking those on the other side to “delete me or block me.”

Okay let’s take a breather. We don’t have 74 million Nazis in America. We also don’t have 81 million Marxists.

One of my most influential teachers gave me “Thank You For Arguing” by Jay Heinrichs. There are a few lessons I remember. They seem obvious, but we regularly seem to forget or ignore them. I think an example in the book is a police officer pulling you over for some driving offense which you either did not commit, or you feel is an overreaction. You can yell at the police officer, and call him/her a nazi or a marxist, but that won’t get you very far. The moral of the anecdote is to keep your goals and the environment in mind when assessing your actions: make sure your behavior helps you obtain your goals or make progress.

Many argue for zero tolerance towards Trump supporters, suggesting what has happened is beyond forgivable. There’s allusions to the nazi-regime and rhetorical questions of would I really be trying to empathize with Nazis? So as a jewish descendent: I would be terrified and furious, but yes, given the chance, to some level, I probably would try to empathize. As now, I’d seperate the people (masses) from individual culprits (individuals), and from policy (actions).

I see two manners in which to change the world for the better, at least on a social- and societal-level. The first path is to encourage those already within our universe of truths and beliefs, but apathetic, to be active, and to realize the unacceptable nature of the status quo. For path #1 the types of hyperbolic statements people share can on occasion be helpful, awakening the more stoic. Eventually, though, these hyperboles can also be counter productive. The boy who cried wolf will cause a sense of numbness. These hyperbolic statements can actually help normalize actions that are slightly less outrageous.

Okay, storming the capitol is an attack against America, but we list other events as examples of attacks against America too: the events in the Muller report, the proud boys protests, voter suppression techniques. I personally believe they are all attacks on America, but I recognize that in a parallel universe these are: a deep-state conspiracy against Trump, good-christians standing up to protect our values from outsiders telling us how to live our lives, and a remedy to limit rampant voter fraud. As for the attack on the capitol? if you “know as a fact” the election was stolen, “know as a fact” oligarchs changed the votes, wouldn’t the attack all of a sudden seem more of a patriotic rebellion?

We also tend to focus on the people instead of the policy. Just think back to 7th grade english, where they reviewed why the passive voice is important… I caution on the nuances of our rhetoric. Every time we label an act from the other side with strong labels like Terrorists or an Attack on America, we are simultaneously alienating the masses involved, and all those who sympathize with these individuals (even if they might not sympathize with the acts). Maybe focus more on actions (policies, passive actions, or individual actions) and not on masses committing acts (which inherently alienate you against not only the participants, but even those who sympathize with the participants but not necessarily the action of the participants).

You can continue with path #1 in more fruitful ways than hyperboles. This is what, in my opinion, Stacy Abrams and the grassroots organizations in Georgia have been doing—connecting with apathetic voters, listening to their problems, mobilizing, and tactfully and gracefully raising attention to the damage that a subgroup of Trump supporters, and more importantly Trump backed actions are doing to our country. This behavior I find has far fewer negative consequences, but has many of the added benefits of the hyperbolic panic attacks many of us have.

There is path #2. This option is to try to understand the other side, and try to move some people on the fringes of the other side over to your side. To be 100% fair this also means trying to move your side to addressing the pain points of those on the fringes of the other side. Michael Moore sometimes tries this approach. He is addressing the pain points of Trump voters in his books and documentaries. He holds monologues where he presents their perspective from their point of view.

For option #2, Like Michael Moore has through Flint, you need to have contact with the opposing faction, you need to speak their language, and you need to understand their pain points. In the 1930s and ’40s this would mean understanding the root cause of the frustrations: for example losing the world war, being punished by the global community right after your homes and factories are bombed, your nation’s land being taken away by foreign countries, your killed relatives then being blamed for the war and carnage. None of this justifies the horrors of the Nazi period, but if you do not understand the cause, you cannot address and dismantle the problem. If you know how to communicate with just 1% of those in a parallel universe, move them towards your universe, you are already much more helpful than those chasing their own tails, yelling “foul play” to others in their circle chasing their tails.

I believe both path #1 and path #2 are legitimate means to support your cause, but what I find extremely damaging is just spreading passionate hyperboles blankly attacking the other side, and actively burning any remaining bridges that exist between what is clearly two parallel universes. This is equivalent to yelling at the police officer that you did not in fact cross a red light. Burning our bridges, in aggregate, is likely causing more damage than yesterday’s attack on the capitol. In effect these people are not only chasing their own tails, but to take the analogy further, in the process they are chasing away the few cats left in the garden who would be willing to listen to those pursuing path #2 and willing to talk…

I do not claim we should not call the attack on the capitol a riot or a mob attack. I am saying we should not universally call Trump supporters terrorists for continuing to support him after this riot. I do not claim we should not be outraged that taking children away from their immigrant parents is deplorable. Nor do I say that attacking individual representatives as deplorable for their actions is damaging. I claim calling nearly half of the voters out there deplorable is damaging. Separate the action and the individuals from the masses. When possible attack actions. If necessary single out individuals without attacking masses.

I am furious with the GOP. I sometimes want to throw inanimate objects at my television or computer. Still, I urge everyone to consider what they are trying to achieve. If the goal is to have a punching bag to release anger on, along with others who feel exactly the same way as you do—hooray, continue yelling and screaming negative slurs at the entirety of the other side. Sometimes even I do this, but I make sure it’s in a relatively closed setting… But if you want to change the world, choose path #1 or path #2, or find another path that is productive in some way.

I Want YOU against Climate Change

Climate change sometimes feels like a lost cause. I see these horrific predictions in articles, documentaries, books (I just finished Attenborough’s Life On Our Planet, which is perhaps slightly more optimistic than most, but still terrifying), and I can just feel dread and anger against humanity build up under my skin.

The situation is frankly horrific. The pace of global action seems lethargic. Still, celebrating our personal achievements is important. Huge steps need to be taken to save the world, but many of these huge steps can only be achieved if we aggregate a billion smaller steps combined with larger policy action necessary.

I should note that I still contribute more towards the extinction of our planet than an average human being. Chances are just by being wealthier than the average human being, most of you do too. That makes it ever more important to examine our behaviors. Maybe you’ll find some inspiration. Maybe you’ll share some acts you have done, which I can introduce myself.

In the past couple of years:

  1. We downsized our apartment. We moved from an 80sqm/900sqft apartment to a 51sqm/550sqft apartment. Honestly, it’s not only been an environmentally more sustainable arrangement, but we are much happier. Less cleaning, less clutter. We tried to make everything multifunctional. The kitchen has a bar table with comfortable stools, perfect for working and eating. The Sofa is a pull-out and both it and the bed have storage room inside of them. My window platform is also my bedside table. Maybe later I will write a post about our awesome experiences with downsizing.
  2. Diet is perhaps one of the largest contributors to our impact on the environment. My wife and I have cut down on our meat consumption substantially. She is almost completely vegetarian. I think I am down to about one-two portions of meat a week, perhaps plus one more if you include the occasional fish. As for meat with larger climate impacts, such as beef or pork, I’m down to about one portion a month. I also try to eat more seasonal vegetables, and ones with lower footprints. I’ve heard that limiting a craving is more difficult than eliminating it, but I think limiting meat works for me. I am enjoying more and more the vegetarian options out there, but having an option to eat meat makes my commitment easier.
  3. We sold our car. My theory is the biggest environmental impact of owning a car is not even driving, but rather the cost we inflict on society producing and transporting a huge chunk of metal that 98% of the time just stands there. In fact you are anti-using it, taking up other people’s and plants’ space outside. If I really need a car, I rent or use car-sharing. Most of the time I don’t.
  4. Energy efficiency. Besides the smaller apartment, having moved to Europe 6-7 year ago came with moving from a drier to a dry rack. This move not only cut down on my energy consumption, but allowed me to keep my clothes for longer—a double win for the environment. I am also washing clothes slightly less frequently; I definitely over-washed them before. I designated some clothes as ones that can get a little dirty: e.g. my dog walking pants. It’s okay if they have a bit of mud on them. But I am also much better with turning off everything that I am not using, and always considering energy efficiency options when I buy new appliances.
  5. Buying less. Okay recently with the apartment rental we bought a lot to get our place furnished, but in general, we just buy less, and instead buy quality. A quality lens for my camera instead of another three or four photo/camera gadgets. A versatile laptop instead of a laptop, a tablet, and PC. I also just spend less. At the risk of sounding cliché, I had to internalize that materialism does not bring me happiness.
  6. Packaging and waste. Mostly thanks to Germany, but we recycle significantly better. We also cut down on our waste. We compost, we use bio-plastic, we have been buying as much as possible without plastic, we take not only our shopping bags, but bags that we place unpackaged vegetables, mushrooms, fruits, breads into. If something does have packaging, I try to go with paper.
  7. Walk more. Transit pollutes less than a car, but there are instances when walking works too. Walking is good for the mind and soul, and your body. As minuscule as the step is, I even find myself avoiding elevators —I get an exercise, and save more energy.
  8. We travel less, and when we do, we consider offsetting. Okay recently this has been thanks to COVID. But even before then, we were traveling more locally, and slightly less in total. I am sure I will still be making 1-2 bigger trips a year in the future, so I have started offsetting some of my travel. I have only opted in a couple of times so far, but I hope to make this step regular. This act doesn’t solve the problem, but it does reduce our impact.
  9. Plants. Much of the decoration in our home consists of plants. Plants that don’t require too much water. They are beautiful, and the impact they have on the environment is probably close to none; however, if you think of the alternative cost of having bought something that’s not a plant to decorate that spot… or the indirect impact plants might have on others… Plus I love plants more and more.
  10. Civic action. I donate to environmental causes, and pro environmental candidates. I share my concern and thoughts with others, and I listen to what they have to say, learning from their perspectives.

There’s still a lot I need to improve. For example, my showers are unacceptably long. I think of this struggle as one that will take many more years to perfect. I just wanted to share that what began as a struggle isn’t much of a struggle, but rather a lifestyle. Much of the sacrifices turned out to be blessings in disguise. So I encourage anyone who hasn’t started on this journey to do so. You will feel better on so many levels–and so will the planet.

Resisting With a Haiku a Day

We are a month out from election day. I was thinking how could I be a part of the resistance in the least annoying way. How about a single haiku a day? I commit to posting one haiku a day in order to raise awareness to the last two years from my perspective. Sharing is caring.

1 day out

How would you explain
Not voting against Hitler
When you had the chance

2 days out

Your vote won’t win
against bigots, bullies. But…
Our vote can win

3 days out

Everyone has a
Preexisting condition
Those who know, pay more

4 days out

I’m American
I Don’t need Trump’s approval
But he will need mine

5 days out

The name of the game
Divide and conquer today
Brainwash tomorrow

6 days out

Trump attacks NATO
Defends Kim, Putin, Saudis
Orders silly coins

7 days out

Originalists:
Executive abuse now
Outrage yesterday

8 days out

DeVos argues schools
Deserve investment cuts since…
Funding ain’t helpin

9 days out

A bit ironic
Greed, division, corruption:
Our moral compass

10 days out

Car accident death
Or a gun related death
Same chance in Trumpland

11 days out

Knock the crap out of…
I’d like to punch him in the…
I grab em by the…

12 days out

Voter suppression
When the head of elections
Is the candidate

13 days out

Spew hate and anger
When consequences result
Blame everyone else

14 days out

America first?
Since all of our homes are here,
Rather the planet?

15 days out

Our Republicans
Sacrifice Democracy
For their short term gain

16 days out

Politicians lie
But Trump redefines deceit
Truth’s unimportant

17 days out

Separating kids
Voiding citizenships, lives
Are we fascists yet?

18 days out

It’s not what he does
It’s what precedence he leaves
He sets the new norms

19 days out

No Garland hearing
Nine months before election
But with Kavanaugh?

20 days out

Stops tax incentives
For sustainable sources
So we pollute more

21 days out

Trump relates to Us
Empathy earned through his many
Errands, bills, and lists

22 days out

Tariffs and trade wars
Subsidize those effected
Tired of winning

23 days out

Affordable care
Without young, healthy members
An Oxymoron

24 days out

Our coal belt workers
Told by Trump: Coal’s our future
The future will kill

25 days out

Russians meddling
Wouldn’t be terrifying
But Trump asked for them

26 days out

My friends from Iran
Good people, warm hearts, kind souls
Punished for nothing

27 days out

Record deficit
Where are our big tax cuts Trump?
The Rich reap them all

28 days out

Extraditing migrants
A country of walls and hate
Founding fathers weap

29 days out

Gerrymandering
Fifty-fifty results in
Eighty to twenty

30 days out

He grabs them by the…
“Attractive” witness abused
President, Justice

31 days out

Rape our Mother Earth
Pull out of Paris after
Ejaculation

32 days out

No more Yes We Can
Instead make America…
Weak, Moron, Die…WRONG

#IstandwithCEU

            First They Came…

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

-Martin Niemöller

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Trump has a better chance of winning than the Cubs did!

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Nate Silver’s FiveThirtyEight Model. The trend is definitely not promising.

I know everyone’s exhausted from the constant negative political discourse. At this point, even I am; however, because I truly believe this election to be more crucial than any election I have thus far experienced, please give me four minutes of your time.

Let’s play a game. Imagine waking up November 9th: Trump has been elected as the next president of the United States. The Republicans would most definitely maintain the Senate and the House (GOP congressional candidates are 3-4 points ahead of Trump), so do not expect checks and balances to save us. If anything, the checks and balances would have been stronger against Clinton. So what are we risking with this new Trump victory?

  1. World order. This is the guy who inquired more than once why he should refrain from using nuclear weapons in Europe. Our President would be the man who publicly requested Putin to help hack email servers, conduct espionage against the US, and has repeatedly complimented his oppressive oligarchy. Our Commander in Chief would be the con-artist who is ignorant regarding foreign policy, and is way too arrogant to actually surround himself with people who aren’t. Trump has a psychological compulsion to be at the center of attention; he has to be the one who is the smartest, the one to make decisions; he will never listen. Anyone honest about him has to see this. We are risking more than another Iraq war—we are risking world order. Another world leader could really take advantage of his temperament.
  2. The driver of our economy. Most recently 370 top American economists have decided to submit a statement shunning Trump’s economic policies. I’m not a top US economist, but from what economics I have studied I do not have any doubts: with Trump, our economy would eventually dive. But ignoring all of his ludicrous economic ideas, his immigration policy would have the worst impact. Like it or not, one of the main drivers of our economy is the influx of immigrants. We thrive off of welcoming all the smart people other nations educate (at no tax expense to us), and we prosper off of the intellect with which they improve Apple, Google, or Amazon. This is not just the case with high techs, but also with the R&D for most manufacturing jobs. The US economy requires an inflow of brainpower to thrive. As for all those lower skilled “Mexicans” … many of them are our primary source of affordable labor that keep service prices affordable. Their immigration not only provides latino/a immigrants with a significantly higher quality of life than back in their previous homes, but ironically it increases wage competition back in Mexico (ultimately discouraging outsourcing). Almost any economic study I have skimmed or read has shown overwhelmingly positive impacts associated with immigration. For the average Joe, without immigration our burgers and shakes would cost a pretty penny more (so would any other service oriented product), all the while our tax revenues and economic competitiveness would plummet. In no time companies would start outsourcing what really matters for the US economy—high skilled labor, hurting us way more than an air conditioning company building a power plant in Mexico
  1. Democracy. From Trump’s claims that he refuses accept the results of the election unless he wins, to his view on interfering with the independence of courts, and meddling with the independence of the press, or his belief that often violence is necessary to solve disagreements, Trump will represent a strong will towards dismantling and discarding modern democratic values. A will that could very well prevail. Abroad, I’ve seen first hand what a failing democracy looks like (both scary, and devastatingly depressing), and the fact that one of the most important pillars of democracy, the role model country for many, might elect a President who wants to undermine our most sacred values is completely unacceptable to me. As Churchill put it “Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others.” I think that saying hits the nail in the head: despite all our problems, we cannot risk throwing our system out. We would truly be moving backwards.

So now it’s time for Clinton. If you are convinced she is subpar candidate, corrupt, or what have you, then you should consider what the nation is risking with her…

  1. That she’ll be found guilty by the FBI? So what? If she is guilty, which I highly doubt, she will have to resign. Tim Kaine is infinitely saner and more capable of serving as President than Donald Trump. The fact that the FBI is doing this investigation should be proof that the system isn’t biased towards Clinton as some claim, and that she will be under tough scrutiny at all times.  As for this latest scandal? Her ex coworker’s ex husband’s email server is being examined in order to determine whether to reopen the case. Nothing else has happened. What are we up in arms about?
  1. That income disparities will continue to grow? Economic troubles will continue to bubble? Most of the economic policies she stands for are ones that will help decrease income disparities. As for Obamacare, she is the one who cared about healthcare from the beginning—if anyone, she is a candidate that can improve upon the imperfect system currently in place. And besides sluggish wage growth and income disparities (which have actually recently improved), what economic troubles? We are outgrowing most other countries of our standard of living (~+3% yearly most recently), we have record low unemployment, our participation rate is increasing, and we continue to be one of the most competitive countries in the world. I am not claiming our economy is in perfect condition, but we have more to lose than gain!
  1. That a dishonest, hawkish, or corrupt person will become president? If she is dishonest or corrupt, she won’t be the first. I think she might seem dishonest, because she’s a career politician. At least, unlike Trump, she and her policies are completely predictable. We know how she votes, we know what she represents—and both are acceptable, in fact often respectable. She has had a history for voting to defend those who need defending the most, and supporting economic policies that help sustainable growth. Her experience is unquestionably impressive, and thus I really have to agree with Obama: would we really be this critical of her if she were a man? I’m generally skeptical of such rhetorical questions, but  with the literally dozens and dozens of unbelievable scandals surrounding Trump, and only one major scandal surrounding Clinton, ask yourself whether there might be some truth to it… We’re punishing her for being power-hungry? Compared to Trump? Really?

I hate to focus my argument on fear, but I dread what will happen if a fascist oligarch is triumphant. I’ve experienced first hand the dangers involved with such an authoritarian man (i.e. Prime Minister Orbán in Hungary). Trump is a dangerous game to be playing, and I think believing there’s any guarantee that the checks and balances will save us, or that eventually he will just go away, or that he will lose the election, is irresponsible at best. He has a better chance than the cubs did after Game 3 according to the Nate Silver’s FiveThirtyEight model !

Clinton is a solid candidate who will improve upon the imperfect health care law currently in place, help lower income disparities, cultivate growth, raise the minimum wage, maintain international agreements for curbing green house emissions, know how to handle foreign conflicts, and, most importantly, maintain sanity and liberal democratic order in the world. Trump is an egotistical fascist lunatic who manipulates people like he manipulates his income tax returns, while treating anyone who opposes him similarly to how he treats women. So if you are not enthusiastic about Clinton, please consider what you are risking, and consider is it really worth “making a statement” by not voting or going third party. Please reconsider risking our future for an idealism that you can fight for again in four, or eight years from now, when the alternative is not a Trump, but rather (hopefully) another Romney.

 

 

 

Hungarian Limbo

In my previous post I attempted to explain Americans’ irrational and undoubtedly dangerous obsession with guns by referring to a quintessential, and sometimes flawed thirst for freedom. The concept of freedom is especially thought provoking in that with freedom comes responsibility. Healthcare is a common example. When individuals are free to opt out, a responsibility arises: those refusing to purchase health insurance are responsible for a personal and occasionally social risk.

In this post I would like to expand a bit further on freedom. I believe there is a distinction between individual and social freedom. Individual freedom is directly connected with an individual responsibility, whilst social freedom, the freedom of society to make decisions regarding privileges, is directly connected with social responsibility. In Europe, most societies have exercised social freedom to mitigate a number of the individual responsibilities; as a result both individual responsibility, and individual freedom are slightly more muted than in the United States. Consequently the European public has become acclimated to the state providing a healthcare and pension safety nets, free tuition at university level, affordable public transportation, and a number of other privileges. Ideally in such social democratic societies individual responsibility are yielded to and have been replaced by social responsibility.

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Freedom to Kill

After the horrible events in Orlando, I wanted to share my thoughts on the stubborn American society’s unwillingness to change federal gun control policy. Last Friday I attempted to explain to my colleagues Americans’ obsession with guns. Citing numerous statistics, most Europeans cannot understand why US policy regarding gun control has yet to change. But statistics are unimportant (at least less important than you would think). There is an underlying explanation to the US gun policy, and with that an essential difference between Europe and America. The interpretation of Freedom.

Before diving deeper into this post, as a disclaimer I must note that when comparing the US and Europe, I am bound to make a number of grand over-generalizations. I apologize for these in advance.

In the US we grow up learning Freedom is a privilege we must fight for; we grow to believe Freedom needs to be maintained and spread throughout the world. As we mature we start encountering nuances. We begin to understand certain tradeoffs associated with a freer society, and that Freedom can and should be limited in some instances. My theory suggests one of the elemental differences between the United States and Europe lies at the heart of the debate over these nuances, and this difference explains Americans’ inability to amend federal gun policy.

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The Mixed Perspective

My previous website and blog, which admittedly I did not update very religiously, has been lost due to a series of unfortunate events. I feel that the time has come to resurrect some form of a website, if nothing else as a medium for me to write down my thoughts.

Thus today I launch my website and blog–The Mixed Perspective. I guess the name is palpable.

I recently took a vocabulary test, which upon completion inquired whether English is my native language. I did not quite know how to answer. I guess not? But is Hungarian? I wouldn’t say so either. My knowledge of these two languages is reminiscent of my perspective and philosophy on life, politics, and the world. Not really American, not really Hungarian, but definitely a combination of the two.
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